G could also have been for gastritis but as grief is something I am undergoing personally at the moment I thought it would be more appropriate to write about grief.
Last Tuesday Ponto my beloved brown doberman died tragically at the age of 7 from leg cancer and the following evening Dandy the 30 year old donkey that I had had for 25 years died of an internal blockage. Needless to say I had several veterinary opinions on both but ultimately to no avail. With Dandy at least I could say it was the average age for a donkey in this country but Ponto’s life was definitely cut short as my last two dobes lived to thirteen and a half. So I am mourning and missing them both dreadfully.
However do animals mourn? The answer is definitely YES. If a donkey has a particular friend it often goes down hill and dies within two months. This happened with William an elderly donkey that was devoted to Maddie our lovely grey mare. When she died of a broken leg which the vets could not repair he was inconsolable, there was absolutely nothing we could do to cheer him up and he too died shortly after her. When a goose died her gander honked miserably for 24 hours and died of a broken heart, shortly followed by his other goose who died 24 hours after him- it was wretched to watch.
Cats can also be bereft and usually I try to pair them up with another cat when their friend dies. When Hogie’s Cornish Rex friend died he managed to pair up with Sheba the Siamese very successfully. However I find with most of our many rescued cats they seem to find true love only the once and thereafter they just have friendships. Sometimes they go around for days crying piteously but the arrival of someone new at least takes their mind off things. A friend’s Siamese would not stop howling after its feline friend died, it finally stopped when another young cat was introduced and after some initial hissing they settled down.
When my brown doberman, Little Dorrit’s mother Daisy died she was inconsolable and started to self mutilate. There are homeopathic remedies that can help and vitamin Bs are said to aid depression (in humans as well) but with Dorrit absolutely nothing worked until Di Patience, the renowned doberman breeder, told me of a young brown dog called Ponto with a sweet nature. He arrived and Little Dorrit dried her tears and for the rest of her life they were absolutely devoted. In turn to help Ponto with Dorrit’s death we introduced Little Nell. They were inseparable until last Tuesday whenl Ponto died so quickly ( two weeks from the onset of a limp) and unexpectedly of bone cancer. Nellie is now totally forlorn. I am taking her for long walks to try and distract her and giving her the remedies but if anything she is getting worse not better and whines heartrendingly whenever she is left alone for a moment. She is also having to sleep on my bed and there really isn’t much room, but it is comforting for both of us. The remedy- I have consulted all my doberman expert friends and have been in touch with dobermann rescue - we definitely need to find her another companion. But that isn’t so easy she is six so a puppy may drive her crazy and an older dog may intimidate her and eat all our cats, ducks etc but something will have to be done very soon.
HOMEOPATHICALLY: Ignatia is the main remedy for grief. Nat Mur can be given after Ignatia particularly if the animal seems to want to be left alone. Nux Vom is also possible for a cat or dog that does not want to be handled; however, if the reverse is true and your pet craves attention Pulsatilla may be more appropriate. Staphisagria can be good for grief when it is accompanied by symptoms such as hair loss. Aurum may be appropriate when there is deep depression and Causticum works well when the animal appears to age after losing a companion, either animal or human, that has probably had a worrying illness over a long period.
Herbally: Camomile,skullcap and valerian are very calming. Flower remedies Honeysuckle or Star of Bethlehem may be given to animals when they have lost their owner or the other household pet. Olive is said to be helpful when the worry has been longstanding.
I shall be giving Nellie Causticum as she looks as though she has aged and gone much greyer since Ponto died last week. Both of us are taking a vitamin B complex and swallowing ignatia.
H for heart next week.
Alexandra Bastedo is the founder of the ABC Animal Sanctuary whose website now has a donation button for all the 150 animals- 148- since last week which have been rescued at www.abcanimalsanctuary.co.uk
Alexandra Bastedo is also a patron of Compassion in World Farming, The Animal Welfare Trust, and WildlifeAid, locally she is President of Cat and Rabbit Rescue and Vice President of Brent Lodge Wild Bird Hospital near Chichester and patron of Paws Animal Rescue at Findon. She is a former president of her local RSPCA branch but left in order to devote more time to th ABC animal sanctuary with its numerous rescued needy animals.
Copyright Alexandra Bastedo